The Limerent Mind: How to Permanently Beat Limerence and Shine (Limerence Recovery): Bain, Lucy: 9798663988643: Amazon.com: Books

The author is a neuroscientist and herself has suffered from limerance. She is passionate about helping others of us who have suffered with this attachment disorder. I have been falling in love with unavailable people my entire adult life. When you do this and get rejected, it serves to confirm your belief that you are unlovable. I should add that years of cognitive behavioral therapy laid the groundwork for this book helping me so much. The breakthough that the author shares is a technique for reprogramming your self-conscious, which is where our beliefs about ourselves primarily reside, at least the dogged ones that won't let go of us. As a result of using this technique, I opened up to the possibility of loving and being loved by someone who was actually interested in me. And guess what? At age 70 I have a healthy dating relationship for the first time. I cannot emphasize enough that this book is not a substitute for psychotherapy, but it was a necessary adjunct. You do have to. through therapy, to get rid of all the shame you carry about having "failed at intimacy." You have to get over having to prove anything to anybody (ie. prove to yourself and others that you have NOT failed at intimacy). You have to understand that happiness is an inside game (being in a relationship with someone who loves you is not what will make you happy). Once all that is in place, this book is the ticket. I had been working on myself for decades and was at a point of trying to accept that despite my best efforts, I would probably go to my grave without ever having had the opportunity to put into practice all I have learned from doing things wrong for decades. Well, now I am putting all that into practice and enjoying intimacy and being in the present moment for the first time ever. IT IS NOT TOO LATE!!!!!!!! Thank you Lucy Bain!!!!

The topic of limerence is a revelation. It's critical for those who have ever felt trapped by their feelings for someone.Pros: Author is very knowledgeable, educated, and speaks from experience.The explanations are comprehensive, covering mind, body and spirit.The techniques explored are tried, tested, proven, and they WORK.I'm already a better person after starting this journey of recovery.Cons:This book is desperate for a good editor. It is rife with typos. It's a shame that this work was self published without editing because the material is so vital and useful.The writing can be a tad hard to follow at times. It's inconsistent in tone. It sounds like a doctoral dissertation at times. Some of the section organization is questionable.Overall this was an excellent and enlightening read. I wish i had known about this 20 years ago. Please be patient with the shortcomings i mentioned before. It's worth it.

I came across this book by going to Lucy’s blog and seeing the notification about this book being available. I’ve read a few limerence entries on her blog before and considered it the best limerence help one can find on the internet. Immediately, I became excited about the book. Myself and a few friends of mine share this predisposition to limerence and although I’m currently free of it, I wanted to hear some more information and insights, especially coming from a neuroscience expert.I was pleased the price for Kindle ebook was affordable and got it. The book is short and one should be able to read it in short time. I’m not a slow reader, but it took me a lot of time to go through the book. Some paragraphs i had to reread a few times for the revelations to sink in. Every 10-20 pages i had to stop and pounder about my ways. Some of my thoughts were not comfortable, but the process of healing clearly crafted by Lucy took place and I came out from reading it a changed person. Fully optimistic about my next direction of my life.Lucy’s message is incredibly uplifting and motivating to change. She is a charismatic person and it comes through her writing. Her writing style is exquisitely beautiful but easy to understand. She is able to blend scientific information into easy to understand prose that is intermingled with spiritual values and deep human compassion and it’s fascinating to read. When I was near the end of the ebook. I was genuinely sad that this comes to end soon. Just like a wonderful vacation trip when it’s ending. This book moved me and touched me like no other book. Lucy’s intimate knowledge of Limerant personality made me feel she wrote it just for me after knowing me all my life. It's like the book is all about me. It's like the owner manual for humans (at least some humans) we should have had it all the time but nature didn't give it to us.I recommend this book for anyone who is in the mids of limerence, or who knows someone affected by limerence, but also for some of us who overcame limerence, but still harbor hidden limerent tendencies inside. I didn’t even know I had them, but my experience with the book showed otherwise.In summary, the $9.99 bought me a window into myself, a spiritual journey, healing experience better than any psychoterapy sessions I aver had, and a priceless feeling of a connection with a fellow human being who is caring and wants to help countless suffering souls.I sent the link to the ebook to some of my friends and encouraged them to read the free introductory content to see if they want to purchase the book for themselves. Some liked it a lot, but one person did not. I guess YMMV and try the free content first to try it out.As for me, I’m hooked on Lucy’s writing and looking forward to any more books she may have in the pipeline.Despite a few cons, I’m so impressed, I’m giving the book all 5 stars.Summary.Pros:Easy and enjoyable to read, beautifully written, very helpful, uplifting, a spiritual experience (at least for me).Cons:Short text and few references. Not everyone likes her style of expression.